Feedback Thoughts

Feedback Thoughts

After reading the articles, I can see some perspectives that I can fully agree with. 

People make mistakes and people will make mistakes. We will need feedback and criticisms in order to better ourselves so we can improve and prevent those mistakes from happening again. 

However, like in Sabina Nawaz's article: "Silence the Critical Voices in Your Head", excessive focus on those negative feedback and not looking to the positive ones can be detrimental. Such as the story of Rajeev, someone who had the right mindset of asking for feedback for constructive reasons, but didn't understand that majority of the employees he had an interview with had good opinions of him thanks to his abilities and personality. He fixates on the negatives, magnifying them just so he can fix it, dismissing the positive feedback that people offered.

It's good to find your mistakes and fix them, but remember your good traits. People latch onto what the negative things people say and either attempt to fix them with a laser-focus or fall into a cycle of self-doubt and self-conflict. Understand why you're bad and understand why you're good. You will need both positive and negative feedback to work with in order to be a better person. 

Yin and Yang, can't live with one, can't live without one.

Some people tends to hang onto the negative feedback and experiences because to a degree, it was in our evolutionary trait to react more to negative stimulus which was what our ancestors needed to survive, but now it just seems like an unnecessary human function. 

In the article: "How to Get Past Negativity Bias in Order to Hardwire Positive Experiences", Katrina Schwartz explains how periodically, we need to instill positive memories and experiences into our psyche as much as we do with out negative ones. She explains how this process is quite necessary in order to grow our inner strength. By reinforcing positive feedback and experiences, we can improve our motivation and well-being (kinda wish this was done earlier).

Many people have received positive feedback and have had some great time in their lives that become overshadowed by the negatives. Having greater understanding of ourselves and being self-aware of these feelings happening in our minds can help us to find ways to enrich our lives, even if by a very small margin.

Are feedback good? Yes. They act as a mirror from which we can learn something from, whether it's our mistakes, flaws, etc. and can help us improve in the long run. It's the fixation on the negativity that damages us. In this sense, it's our human brain that really does the damage, not the feedback itself. On the light note, it's just being self-aware about vibe-checking every now and then to ensure good work and relationship habits. 

Now I need to end this blog before my non-stop philosophical rambling and excessive drowsiness sets in. Narcolepsy is just not fun to have.

Have a nice day.
Good night.